I’ve only been a mom for about 6 months now, so I’m not claiming to be an expert by any means. BUT, I feel like I already have a ton of experience to share with expectant moms. For instance, when they say that you will miss the sleep deprived newborn phase, and you look at that person with “You’re insane” eyes, trust me, you will! Only half of a year has passed and I wonder everyday where my squishy little baby went. It makes me so sad!! Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love watching her learn new things, but I miss those sweet little cheeks.
Let me get down to the nitty gritty though. The first month or so with a newborn is a NIGHTMARE!! Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. If they try, they are lying or it has been so long that they forgot. Feeding a bottomless pit every two hours, finally laying down to get some sleep only to be woken up as soon as you’re comfy, having you husband say he will help but in all reality he doesn’t produce milk in the middle of the night (AND he doesn’t hear the baby screaming even though said baby is literally in the same room as him), watching the sunrise while you apply Lanolin for the millionth time, is NOT a walk in the park.
I was so exhausted and overwhelmed and I couldn’t get past my pride in order to ask for help. I thought that if I had to ask for help then I was not a good mom. Totally FALSE. But that’s what went through my head. I cried A LOT and felt defeated all the time, but told everyone that I was fine. Lies.
The common misconception is that once you become a mom, you are just supposed to know everything about being a mom and taking care of a child. But guess what? I am still learning daily and asking my mom and sister for advice constantly. Every first time mom struggles even if they don’t let the world see it. That mom that you idolize because they have everything going perfectly and their hair always looks great, is probably covering up that she hasn’t washed her hair in three days (hello dry shampoo) and that she had to bribe her five year old with a new toy to behave in public. Don’t panic if things aren’t peachy keen all the time, because they aren’t supposed to be. But God blessed us with our little monsters and gave us the necessary skills to raise them to be the best that they can be. It might be difficult, but then that little one is going to cuddle up next to you and fall asleep holding on to one of your fingers, and it will all be worth it.
It goes by too fast. Seriously, I woke up and my little girl has two teeth and wants to try and stand up already. She is sleeping in her own room (for the most part). She still wants my attention and cuddles but not as much. So hold on to those little milk guzzlers for as long as you can, soak up every precious moment, because time moves too quickly and you will miss the newborn stage.